- Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
- Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
- During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
- Be happy to see him.
- Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
- Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
- Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
- Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
- Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
- Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
- A good wife always knows her place.
- Plan ahead:- Everyone needs to know that their organisation is being led by management with a clear vision of how to take the practice through economic turmoil and back to profitability.
- During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Short of cranking the heating right up you may struggle to recreate that ‘fireside’ scenario or a “haven of rest and order”, but attempt to limit internal bickering. Make the firm a shelter from the storm, not the eye of it.
- Be happy to see him. Value your staff; pats on the back cost nothing but can mean the difference on a bad day.
- Listen to him. Listen to all of your staff; by adopting an ‘us’ mentality you are more likely to come through this as a stronger unit and be far harder to break up.
- Don’t greet him with complaints and problems. There’s a brilliant quote in Saving Private Ryan where Tom Hanks explains “There's a chain of command. Gripes go up, not down. Always up. You gripe to me, I gripe to my superior officer, so on, so on, and so on. I don't gripe to you. I don't gripe in front of you.” If you are unhappy with the decisions of the senior management at the firm tell them, not the trainees and assistants you are supervising.
- Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Your staff are out networking to bring in new business – leave them alone. In fact, you should have been out there too.
- Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice. That’s just silly. This isn’t all relevant you know. However if it is.........actually let's not go there.
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